Occasionally, two people meet and afterward they realize it was chance
or fate (yuánfèn 缘分) that brought them together. How often in this world
does one get to meet a person who has lived through the first six
decades of a government and country’s growth? While riding the high
speed rail from Shanghai to Beijing, the train hurling along the track
at an average of 300 kilometers (186.3 miles) per hour, the kind
grandmother seated next to me and I had a riveting conversation. At
eighty years old, here sat a woman who has seen her government and country grow in so many ways over the past six decades.
She
was seventeen when the Chinese civil war ended and the People’s
Republic of China (P.R.C.) formed in 1949. She was in Shanghai with her
family then, still a girl attending school. She moved to the new
capitol, Beijing, in 1954 and began her career in the foreign trade
bureau (wàimàobù 外贸部). It was there at the foreign trade bureau, in the
worker’s canteen, she met her husband. He passed away a few years ago,
just after their fiftieth wedding anniversary.
I asked her many
personal questions; several times fearing she might not answer them.
When I asked about her feelings on the Cultural Revolution, I thought
she would hesitate. She did not. Instead, she turned toward me enough to
make eye contact and stated soberly, “Insanely violent” (fēngkuáng 疯狂).
Her words carried enormous weight and articulated the numerous pained
stories which her eyes could not bear to utter aloud. “Everyone makes
mistakes,” she continued on. “The difference is, not everyone recognizes
their mistakes.”
When I asked grandmother who she sees as the
best leader in the sixty year history of the P.R.C., she eagerly
replied, “Deng Xiaoping!”
“Uncle Deng?” I asked. Her face lit
with a broad smile as she laughed softly and explained, “Yes, Uncle
Deng. Look at the economic growth China has seen since 1982. Only he had
the courage to speak out and lead us forward to develop as a nation.”
We reminisced about Shanghai. “Everything is so different,” she explained. “As a product of the growth.”
“Do you recognize the city you grew up in? Haven’t all the road names changed?”
“Some
have changed more than once. For instance, Yafei Road is now Huaihai
Road. It’s all different. And so many skyscrapers! Totally different
from the city I grew up in.”
Having noticed grandmother was
wearing a pair of faded jeans, I remembered once my own grandmother had
told me one of her favorite changes she had seen in her lifetime was the
acceptance of women wearing pants. I inquired, “How old were you when
you began wearing pants?”
“I must have been in my twenties. Before then, since I was a little girl, I wore traditional Chinese dresses (qípáo 旗袍).”
As
our train reached its destination, I was sad to see grandmother go. I
still have so many questions racing through my mind much faster than 300
kilometers an hour. What a chance encounter it was to speak with her
about her life and modern Chinese history. In this fast-paced world of
ours, you never know when life will slow down just enough for you to
meet someone with their own fascinating story to tell, if you are
willing to ask and listen.
Benjamin J. Hayford
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